Mishkat
al-Masabih
مشكاة المصابيح
Funerals
كتاب الجنائز
Chapter 7c: Weeping for the Dead - Section 3
البكاء على الميت - الفصل الثالث
Mishkat al-Masabih 1743
‘A’isha said that when the Prophet (ﷺ) was told that Ibn Haritha, Ja'far and Ibn Rawaha (They were Zaid b. Haritha, Ja'far Abu Talib, and 'Abdallah b. Rawaha who were killed at Mu’ta in 7 A.H) had been killed, he sat down showing signs of grief, while she was looking at him through the sa’ir, i.e. the slit, of the door. A man came to him and mentioned that Ja'far’s women were weeping, and on being told to tell them to stop he went away. He came a second time saying they had not obeyed him, and he told him to tell them to stop. When he came a third time and said he could make no impression on them, Allah's Messenger ﷺ, so ‘A’isha asserted, said, “Throw dust in their mouths.” Thereupon she said, “Allah humble you! You did not do what Allah's Messenger ﷺ ordered you, nor did you stop annoying Allah's Messenger ﷺ.” (Bukharl and Muslim.)
وَعَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ: لَمَّا جَاءَ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَتْلُ ابْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرٍ وَابْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ وَأَنَا أَنْظُرُ مِنْ صَائِرِ الْبَابِ تَعْنِي شَقَّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ: إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ وَذَكَرَ بُكَاءَهُنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ الثَّانِيَةَ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ فَقَالَ: انْهَهُنَّ فَأَتَاهُ الثَّالِثَةَ قَالَ: وَاللَّهِ غَلَبْنَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَزَعَمْتُ أَنَّهُ قَالَ: «فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ» . فَقُلْتُ: أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَكَ لَمْ تَفْعَلْ مَا أَمَرَكَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَلَمْ تَتْرُكْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ العناء